Love your wife

I am not an expert by any means in marriage but one of the most important things that I took away from marriage counseling was this:


Seems extremely simple but honestly it’s not, at least in my life. As a guy you want to fix something or you want to avoid the problem. Like anytime my wife is ill the first thing that I want to do is: “What can I do to fix it baby?”

But she wants my love, and to hold her. In fact we see biblical representation of this art:
Ephesians 5:25

Husbands Love your wives. That is what the bible commands us to do.

How many of you husbands know why your wives fell in love with you? Was it your money? Was it your smashing good looks? Or was it the fact that she knew you cared about her so much in each and every way. If so why do we worry about the things that aren’t the number one priority.

I hope this helped someone today.



  1. And wives…LOVE YOUR HUSBANDS. They try so hard to please us, to be our heros, to make us happy. Many of us wives miss that stuff; they only see the things that are done wrong or not done at all. Trust me. You will be a much happier and fulfilled wife if you can just focus on the positive things your husband does.

    Great post!

  2. I really like the simplistic way you point this statement out. I would like to further add that it is in the male nature to want to help and act as stated. There is a powerful act in just listening that can be seen as being helpful. I own an operate an online counseling site, just finished my doctorate and marriage and family and getting married in September. Marriage is a work of art that needs to be appreciated at all times and worked on by communicating and making effort. When you go to work, you are given specific tasks to complete and if you do not complete them, well you get into trouble. With your relationship, it is not that easy to know which are the tasks to complete. I would say that communication is the #1 task to complete each day. Did you talk to each other today? Really talk or just talk about the kids or work. It is so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day routnes of work and life so why not get caught up in the wonderful idea of a relationship.

  3. Allison I agree that love is a constant involved in marriage that should be reciprocal on the wives’ part as well. However, the Bible calls wives to respect their husbands. Women generally and naturally are given to love. It is not a task that must be forced. However, God calls wives to respect their husbands.

    So all of that stuff to be your heroes is completely true!! We want to rescue our princess and we want that princess to view us as their hero.

    thanks so much for reading and commenting.

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  5. Great discussion!!! A great book for married men is “How to Love You Wife” by Dr. John Buri. It changed my life!!

    Here’s the short description of the book: Some people have suggested that a successful marriage requires tremendous insight to understand and super-human effort to achieve. Others contend that happy marriages are the purview of a lucky few. In this ground-breaking book, How To Love Your Wife, it is revealed how thriving marriages can actually be achieved through sensible effort by reasonable people. But here’s the catch. Since the majority of marriages in this country consist of unions in which wives are more heavily invested in marital success than are their husbands, much of this sensible effort by reasonable people needs to be consistently initiated and maintained by men. In fact, men often hold the keys to bringing about the type of loving marriage they had hoped for when they first said “I do.” In How To Love Your Wife, these keys are made clear, understandable, and accessible.

    John Buri’s website:

    The book on amazon:

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